Ah the blissful morning after making love: you’re smiling, you have a spring in your step, you sneak meaningful, secret glances with your lover and you can’t keep your hands off each other! Post-sex contentment hits every person
differently, but it is true that after lovemaking, couples feel more connected, more attuned to each other’s needs, communicate more effectively, and the body chemicals flooding through one’s veins and brain is enough to make one feel, well, very loved up.
But some couples don’t have as much time for lovemaking as they would
like. So they may miss out on this blissful morning after glow. Some
couples believe that if they don’t have time for sex, they don’t have
time for much else together, either, so intimate shared time becomes a
luxury, or left to be experienced infrequently and rarely in a couple’s
life. But it doesn’t have to be. Couples who feel they don’t have time
for sex, or are just too tired or too busy with other competing
important priorities don’t have to neglect their intimacy altogether.
Couples can certainly feel bonded, giddy and loved up through other
means, not only sex. Yes, sex is a powerful magnet between partners, but
if you’re strapped for time, energy or have other reasons you can’t get
enough sexy time together (perhaps one person travels or you work
varied hours from one another or have small children or others living
with you), there are other ways to get your loving, thrilling feelings
more often.
1. Dance
Hold your partner close. Next time your partner is in the same room and
you go to open a social media app on your smartphone, stop, and usethe
minutes you would have spent swiping a screen with your thumb instead
swaying to a song on one of your music apps with your lovee.
2. Whenever you are out together, hold hands
Public displays of affection make
you feel close, and make you proud to be together as a couple. Take
every moment, no matter how small, to connect and to remind yourselves
that you choose each other, every day.
3. Laugh
Lots of people are only witty and entertaining to strangers or company
outside their relationship and family. Be funny. Find humour in life
together. Reminisce about shared good times and hilarious memories.
Build your foundation in part by holding on to the good things that keep
you together and make the ride together worthwhile. Feeling light and
laughing together is an important part of your shared life together. We
like staying around people who make us laugh and feel good. Be that for
one another.
4. Have a conversation, just the two of you, every day
Okay so you may not have time for sex, but you always have time to talk,
about something interesting or intimate, for at least ten minutes,
whether it’s on the phone or in person. You’re adults who share a
connection and fell in love with each other’s minds as well as bodies.
Don’t forget to nurture that!
5. Shower together
Yes, it might lead to a quickie. But either way, it’s sensual couple
time together, and it’s skin on skin contact and you may even squeeze in
a conversation too! If you’re truly time-strapped and rarely get to see
or touch one another, then do as much together as you can.